BFT Discussion: What Would You Ask President Obama To Do For The Black Community?

I am sure that many of us in the black community voted for Barack Obama to be the first African American President of the United States for one reason or another. If you could ask him personally do three things for the black community, what would it be?

The Modern Day Matchmaker: What Does Second Base Mean to You?

BFT New Music: What It Takes by N'dami

BFT New Music: Tell Me You Love Me by Leela James

Love this song! She is underrated! Enjoy the video.

BFT Old School Jam: "Ain't No Half-Steppin" by Big Daddy Kane

BFT Discussion: Former Bay Area Rapid Transit Officer Charged With Shooting An Unarmed Man. Thoughts?

I was not sure whether I wanted to discuss this topic or not, but here it is. About 18 months ago, former Bay area transit officer Johannes Mehserle was charged for shooting Oscar Grant as he lay face down on an Oakland train platform. Mehserle contends that he was reaching for his tazer and not his gun. Grant was not armed and laying facedown. To catch us up all up to speed, the trial of whether this police officer is guilty or not is currently happening. Without passing judgement, how do you really feel about this?

Below is a video of the actual shooting. Caution: This is graphic and parental discretion is advised.

BFT Politics: President Obama on Wall Street Reform

BFT Discussion: Why Don't Men Have To Be Married?

We just discussed why many women fill the need to be married, but why is it men don't feel the need to be married. It seems as though many men can marry or not marry. They seem ok dating several women at one time or just living with a woman without the ring. Are men, especially black men scared of commitment? BFT what do you think?

The Modern Day Matchmaker: Don't Bring Home A White Boy

BFT Spoken Word Spotlight: Cotton by Preach

Nelson Mandela's Great-Granddaughter Killed

BFT Discussion: What Are Your Thoughts On The Controversy Over Slim Thugs Comments About Black Women?

BFT Discussions: How Do You Make Blended Families Work?

How do you make blended families work? In today's society, a lot of couples have a child or children from prior marriages and relationships. Children were raised differently in those prior relationships. How do you come to a happy medium with raising children without your marriage being jeopardy?

President Obama: Removing Barriers for Small Business

"Sunday's Best" Top Two Contestants Season 3: Elder Goldwire McClendon and LeAndria Johnson

Can Hip-Hop Curb Inner City Crime? Watch This Segment of Wasthington Watch with Roland Martin.

Shanel Cooper-Sykes "Put Your Money On Ice"

BFT Music Spotlight: Got To Give It Up by Marvin Gaye

BFT Weekend DVD Pick: Eve's Bayou

The story is set in 1962 Louisiana. The big Batiste family is headed by charming doctor Louis. Though he is married to beautiful Roz, he has a weakness for attractive women patients. One day Louis is flirting with married and sexy Metty Mereaux, not knowing that he is observed by his youngest idealistic daughter Eve, who is there by accident. Eve can not forget the incident which is traumatic for her naivete and shares a secret with older sister Cisely. Lies start to roll. This movie stars Samuel L. Jackson, Lynn Whitfield, Debbie Morgan, Vondie Curtis-Hall, Diahann Carroll, Jurnee Smollett, Ethel Ayler, Lisa Nicole Carson, Branford Marsalis, and Roger Guenevuer Smith.

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BFT Discussion: Is homosexuality helping to diminish confidence and healthiness of heterosexual relationships?

As I was on Twitter, I found an interesting discussion topic. Thank you Common Ground for the topic discussion. Is homosexuality helping to diminish confidence and healthiness of heterosexual relationships?

BFT Discussion: Can You Live In Another Country?

One of my favorite shows is "House Hunters" and "House Hunters International". I asked myself if I could live in another country? I think that I can but I would probably be very homesick. Can you live in another another country?

BFT Comedy Spotlight: AJ Jamal On Going To The Gym

BFT Food For Thought: Black Men It Is Your Time

This past weekend, a very close family and childhood friend was killed in a car accident. It was a horrific accident and it tears my heart up that this happened to such a vibrant young man. I feel like we are losing our black men. I feel so strongly about this that I want to scream! I want to cry! So black men this is for you! I am not talking to all black men but if this affects you, then I am talking to you. I am asking you all to step your game up. Think about what you are doing. Think about the lives that you affect. Think about your children. Think about what you mean to the world. It is time to make better choices! It is time be the husbands, the fathers and kings that you are born to be! I love all of you and many blessings to and for you! Ladies...don't worry...I have a word for you too. So please stay tuned.

BFT Discussion: Whose Fault Is It?

A lot of people are placing blame on President Obama that the oil spill is not fixed or plugged up? Is this the fault of the government or is this the fault of BP?

President Obama's Weekly Address: Speaking From Louisiana On The Oil Spill

BFT Discussion: "Why Do Many Women Have To Be Married?

Here is an interesting topic that was discusssed in the lunchroom, so I wanted to bring it before the BFT family. Why do many women have to be married? What is it about the "I do" that make women lose their mind and dream about this from time of being toddlers? We know that many men can take or leave marriage? Why is that? BFT family please weigh in!!!!

BFT Music Flashback: "Cinderfella" by Dana Dane on Soul Train (Live Performance)

Soulful Blend Living: Market Yourself Authentically

The Modern Day Matchmaker: Who Pays For The First Date?

BFT Congratulates Urban Prep Charter Academy On A Job Well Done. 100% Of All Seniors (All Male) Are Going To College

BFT Discussion: Are Black Women Hating On Each Other? Thoughts?

This discussion comes from Rosalyne. "Maybe this had been discussed before, but I live in the Los Angeles area and we, black women, do not speak to each other, what is going on. Dare not let one of us be with a friend not black, hell we will make every effort to not look, walk a different way or just merely blatantly ignore. I was walking yesterday around Lake Hollywood in the San Fernando Valley and this black lady walking opposite and we were about to meet and I was going to speak but she turned her head as if to say don't even think it. Today, I made one speak to me, but everybody else will speak and if they don't no worries, but my own peeps, come on now. What is going on with us?"

BFT Food For Thought: Do You Have The Courage?

BFT Food For Thought: This past weekend my niece, Chelseah, graduated from high school. This young lady has endured a lot. She was diagnosed with lupus and was really sick. She had to learn to walk, talk and learn all of her school work over again. Guess what! She did it! She is doing well. I really admire her courage and determination in fighting this disease and getting her life back. She believed in something within herself and greater than herself. Her lupus is inactive now. She still has to take precautions, but she doing better than ever now. So if you had to overcome something as devasting as this, could you do it? I know you could. Make the changes in your life that you need to, so that you can be and live a better you. Love and blessings to all of you.