Here is a piece on why so many black women are not married. I thought the "black girl curse" only applied to me. I am a 40 year-old black woman who is still single and would love to get married one day. There is one thing, I am not going to accept any man who can't give me what I deserve. I deserve love, honesty, truth, communication, respect, loyalty, etc. I am of the opinion that it may not happen for me but who knows what God has in store. If it doesn't happen for me, then I will be accepting of that. If it does happen, then I hope my marriage is with a wonderful man who truly loves and adores me with all of the other qualities that I seek. Single ladies how do you feel about this issue? Single black men, what are you thoughts?
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Roland Martin Discusses Black Leadership
Roland Martin discusses black leadership with his panel April Ryan, Joe Madison, Deborah Simmons, and Stephen A. Smith. Check out the discussion and let us know what you think.
New Movie: "Death at a Funeral" in Theaters April 16, 2010
This movies premiers in theaters on April 16, 2010. This movie features Chris Rock, Martin Lawrence, Danny Glover, Kevin Hart, Loretta Devine, Zoe Saldana, Tracy Morgan, Regina Hall, and Keith David.
Les Brown on "Why People Give Up!"
Do you have the ability to do what you want to do? You can do this by setting goals! Check out what Les Brown says about "Why People Give Up". Determine where you want to be!
Snoop Dogg talks to Wendy Williams
I love Snoop's Interview on The Wendy Williams Show. I particular love the part where he talks about his relationship. I hope you all will enjoy!!!!!!!!!!
Sunday, December 20, 2009
Nicole's Corner: My Blessings of 2009/ Are you ready for 2010?
I just want to wish everyone a wonderful Holiday Season! I wanted to make sure that I include everyone who does not celebrate Christmas. Now... for those that do believe... I want to say Merry Christmas! For me, Jesus is the reason for the season. I have been really blessed this year. It has been really tight for me financially but I remaining above water. I have a roof over my head, clothes on my back and food to eat. My children are doing very well. I have started my own business in which I am learning so tough lessons but I still remain. I am blessed for that.
Last week, I was watching Ledisi on the Mo'Nique Show. She said something that stuck with me. She said "If I don't believe in it, how are you gonna believe in it?" Check below to the see the interview and her song in it's entirety. Anyway, that struck a cord with me. I have a this vehicle called "Black Folks Think" and I am able to voice my opinions on any given subject. Do you know what a blessing this is? Do you know that I am able to help a young lady or man with the power of words and video. This is a serious undertaking and blessing. The reason why I do this is because I believe in what I am doing. I believe in my God to see me through this project and I believe in me. I want black folks to get empowered again. I want black folks to get motivated again. I want black folks to continue to get educated. I want black folks to be a more positive force in the world.
The year 2010 is rapidly approaching. What do you want to do in 2010? What is it that you want to accomplish? What do you want to start a business? Do you want to lose weight? Do you want not to do something anymore? Ladies and gentlemen, if you want your 2010 to bright and successful, it all start with the decisions that you make. Start thinking about who your decision will affect you and your family in the short-term and in the long-term. Is your decision going to benefit you positively or are you just doing something? All I am saying start choosing wisely in 2010. If you are not sure about your decisions, research the different outcomes. If you don't have not peace in the decision, then hold off until you do. Waiting to make a decision might be the right thing to do.
So as I leave you all with that. I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas, Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, and New Years! I love you and there is nothing that you can do about it.
Until next time,
Nicole
Last week, I was watching Ledisi on the Mo'Nique Show. She said something that stuck with me. She said "If I don't believe in it, how are you gonna believe in it?" Check below to the see the interview and her song in it's entirety. Anyway, that struck a cord with me. I have a this vehicle called "Black Folks Think" and I am able to voice my opinions on any given subject. Do you know what a blessing this is? Do you know that I am able to help a young lady or man with the power of words and video. This is a serious undertaking and blessing. The reason why I do this is because I believe in what I am doing. I believe in my God to see me through this project and I believe in me. I want black folks to get empowered again. I want black folks to get motivated again. I want black folks to continue to get educated. I want black folks to be a more positive force in the world.
The year 2010 is rapidly approaching. What do you want to do in 2010? What is it that you want to accomplish? What do you want to start a business? Do you want to lose weight? Do you want not to do something anymore? Ladies and gentlemen, if you want your 2010 to bright and successful, it all start with the decisions that you make. Start thinking about who your decision will affect you and your family in the short-term and in the long-term. Is your decision going to benefit you positively or are you just doing something? All I am saying start choosing wisely in 2010. If you are not sure about your decisions, research the different outcomes. If you don't have not peace in the decision, then hold off until you do. Waiting to make a decision might be the right thing to do.
So as I leave you all with that. I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas, Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, and New Years! I love you and there is nothing that you can do about it.
Until next time,
Nicole
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Monday, December 14, 2009
The Jacksons: The Family Dynasty
The Jacksons reality show premiered on Sunday, December 13, 2009 on A&E. What did you guys think of the new series premiere? Do you think they will pull it off?
BFT Discussion of the Day: Do you agree with President Obama's grade?
During the Christmas at the White House interview with President Obama, Oprah Winfrey asked the President to grade himself so far. He has been in the White House for about 11 months. He gave himself a grade of B+. Do you agree with the President's grade. If not, how do you grade him?
Sunday, December 13, 2009
BFT Movie of the Week: "The Perfect Holiday"
Featuring Morris Chestnut, Gabrielle Union, Charlie Murphy, Faizon Love, Katt Williams, Queen Latifah, Terrance Howard, Rachel True and Jill Marie Jones.
BFT Discussion: What Title Do You Carry?
When you carry a title, it defines who you are. If you are a mother or a father then that means you have children and you are responsible for your child's life. If you are a dead beat dad then that means that you skipped out of your child's life and is not taking care of your responsibilities. If you call yourself a whore then you are calling yourself a prostitute. So what title do you give yourself? How do you define yourself? It is really up to you of who or what you want to be known as.
A Word For My Sistas: A Letter to Jazz
By Onetta Bellamy
Check her out on her website www.awordformysistas.com
The path to truly loving ourselves begins the moment we are born. The quest for validation for some seems never ending. What we must recognize is that there is power in words and power in actions. We have to tell our little girls that they are beautiful and that they are worthy. We have to help build up their confidence and their self-esteem. We have the responsibility of encouraging them to cultivate empowering thoughts. We are aware of the many pitfalls in society that women of color sometimes face. We have the opportunity and we must take advantage of the opportunity to raise little girls who love who they are. It starts at home, it starts with us. I hope you are as committed as I am to raising a little girl who can truly love herself. I wrote the following letter to my daughter that is stored in her keepsake box that she has had since she was born. If there is ever a time in her life where she ever needs to be reminded about just how special she is; the letter will always be there for her. I encourage you to write a letter to you daughter as well.
Dear Jazz,
Your smile is timeless. Your laughter is infectious. And the luminous aura that surrounds you is undeniable. You have this uncanning ability to draw people to you. Maybe it’s the sincerity of your character or maybe it’s the kindness of your heart.
My little girl, you are so beautiful! You know you be “rockin” those braids. And mommy loves your style. Remember that I have taught you that you don’t have to wear expensive designer clothes to feel important or to feel like you are somebody! Clothes don’t define who you are!
You are such a smart girl. I am often surprise by the insight that you already have about this world. Know that as you go forward in life, you are “worthy.” Yes my little one, you are worthy to be treated with respect and dignity. You are worthy to have people in your life that love you and care for you. If you ever find that you have people within your inner circle that wants to mistreat you or who wants to break your spirit, you just simply have to let those people go. Please, please, don’t ever settle for less!
From the moment that you were born, my life forever changed. I realized when I first saw you that I was taking on the biggest responsibility of my life; the responsibility of raising a little girl in a world that may tell her that she is not good enough, that she is not pretty enough, and that she has nothing to offer. Baby girl let me tell you, you are a gem! In greatness you were made, and in greatness you will go forward!
Throughout life, I will be your biggest and loudest fan. Always count on me to encourage you and to cheer you on. Let me give you some advice for a moment. The search for perfection is a foolish one. Material things do not measure a person’s success, and failing at something is not the end of the world, it’s the chance to follow another path.
Always think for yourself, be your own person, and march to the beat of your own drum. You are beautiful and you have so much to offer to this world. Don’t believe anything any different. I love you! Always embody those words in your heart. Keep those words stored within your precious mind. And always, always, love who you are.
Love,
Mom
Check her out on her website www.awordformysistas.com
The path to truly loving ourselves begins the moment we are born. The quest for validation for some seems never ending. What we must recognize is that there is power in words and power in actions. We have to tell our little girls that they are beautiful and that they are worthy. We have to help build up their confidence and their self-esteem. We have the responsibility of encouraging them to cultivate empowering thoughts. We are aware of the many pitfalls in society that women of color sometimes face. We have the opportunity and we must take advantage of the opportunity to raise little girls who love who they are. It starts at home, it starts with us. I hope you are as committed as I am to raising a little girl who can truly love herself. I wrote the following letter to my daughter that is stored in her keepsake box that she has had since she was born. If there is ever a time in her life where she ever needs to be reminded about just how special she is; the letter will always be there for her. I encourage you to write a letter to you daughter as well.Dear Jazz,
Your smile is timeless. Your laughter is infectious. And the luminous aura that surrounds you is undeniable. You have this uncanning ability to draw people to you. Maybe it’s the sincerity of your character or maybe it’s the kindness of your heart.
My little girl, you are so beautiful! You know you be “rockin” those braids. And mommy loves your style. Remember that I have taught you that you don’t have to wear expensive designer clothes to feel important or to feel like you are somebody! Clothes don’t define who you are!
You are such a smart girl. I am often surprise by the insight that you already have about this world. Know that as you go forward in life, you are “worthy.” Yes my little one, you are worthy to be treated with respect and dignity. You are worthy to have people in your life that love you and care for you. If you ever find that you have people within your inner circle that wants to mistreat you or who wants to break your spirit, you just simply have to let those people go. Please, please, don’t ever settle for less!
From the moment that you were born, my life forever changed. I realized when I first saw you that I was taking on the biggest responsibility of my life; the responsibility of raising a little girl in a world that may tell her that she is not good enough, that she is not pretty enough, and that she has nothing to offer. Baby girl let me tell you, you are a gem! In greatness you were made, and in greatness you will go forward!
Throughout life, I will be your biggest and loudest fan. Always count on me to encourage you and to cheer you on. Let me give you some advice for a moment. The search for perfection is a foolish one. Material things do not measure a person’s success, and failing at something is not the end of the world, it’s the chance to follow another path.
Always think for yourself, be your own person, and march to the beat of your own drum. You are beautiful and you have so much to offer to this world. Don’t believe anything any different. I love you! Always embody those words in your heart. Keep those words stored within your precious mind. And always, always, love who you are.
Love,
Mom
Saturday, December 12, 2009
BFT Discussion of the Day: Is the ATL "Black Hollywood"?
Has Atlanta become the breeding ground for "Black Hollywood"? It seems that most black entertainers are moving to the ATL. It also seems like there are a lot of opportuntis in the ATL for entertainer. What are your thoughts?
Thursday, December 10, 2009
BFT Discussion of the Day: BFT Men...what do you all think of the Tiger Woods' saga?
On my way to work listening to the radio, I was listening to the latest news on the Tiger Woods saga. It occurred to me that a lot of women have a lot say about what Tiger Woods' wife should do. Many say she should leave and some say she stay and collect her money. What I have not heard is what men really think on this situation. BFT men, what are your thoughts on the Tiger Woods saga? Can he salvage his marriage? Do you think his wife should leave or stay? Should his wife stay in it for the money? BFT Men...what are your thoughts?
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
BFT Discussion of the Day: Do you believe in the right to privacy?
Would you be upset if your right to privacy was invaded? Do you believe that everyone regardless of if they are a celebrity, politician, clergy, etc., should have the right to privacy? Should people be able to sue if their private emails, text messages and pictures are posted on the internet for the world to see. If there are exceptions, please explain. BFT what are you thoughts?
Sunday, December 6, 2009
BFT Real Talk: Your thoughts on Christmas
I was sitting here thinking about the meaning of Christmas. I feel that this sacred holiday is becoming really commercial which is really taking away the real meaning of Christmas. The reason for Christmas is the celebration of Jesus' birthday. However, we put more emphasis on Santa Claus and buying gifts. What are your thoughts on the meaning of Christmas?
Saturday, December 5, 2009
BFT Movie of the Week: "The Pursuit of Happyness"
Features: Will Smith, Jaden Smith and Thandie Newton.
Roland S. Martin: Be Your Own CEO
Ladies and Gentlemen...check out this clip on Roland Martin advising on being the CEO of you. Check out this powerful message! It is very helpful and useful advise if you want to take your life and business to the next level. This advise was helpful for me and I hope that it is helpful and use for you as well!Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Nicole's Corner: A baby don't keep a man!
Ladies, this blog is mainly for you. I would like to talk about having babies in order to keep a man. Ladies, having a baby will not keep a man if he does not want to be kept. I telling you this from experience. It may keep him there for a minute but eventually he will leave if he is not ready to be a daddy or a lifemate with you.
When I got pregnant with my son, I thought that my son's father would magically fall in love with me again. I thought our problems would go away. I thought that he would be this wonderful father and that he would love his son as much as I loved my son. Well, I got a rude awakening. My son's father abandoned me after he found out I was pregnant. I thought, "This can't happen to me." But guess what, it did. My pregnancy did not strengthen our relationship. Our problems remained and intensified. It even caused new problems. It did not make him love or like me anymore than he did. It did nothing but cause strife.
When all of this was happening, my head started spinning. My life was out of control and I needed to get it back. It took me a long time, before I could come to terms with what happened. It was not that I did not love my son because I do with all of my heart. I wanted my son and his father too. The fact that this man did not want me or my son at that time was unbearable. It was excruciating pain. However, it was until I had to come to terms with my truth that my healing started.
When I figured out that my son's father did not love me the way I deserved to be loved, I started to change the way I felt about myself. It took a lot of talking to my best friends, Connie and Monique. It took a lot of talking to my family. It took a lot of prayer. It took me to make my mind up that I needed to move on. I had to move on not just for me but for my son too. I had to be able put my life together so that I could show my son what happiness looked like.
Today, my son's father and I have a good relationship. We both understand that it is not about us or our feelings but about our children. What I wanted more than anything was for my son and his father to have a good relationship. I am happy to say my son and his father are building a good relationship.
Ladies, please don't try to trap your man by getting pregnant. All it will do is cause strife in your relationship. He could end up resenting you. You don't want that in your life. You want a man that loves you. You want to be able to agree and plan you children with your man. These are decisions that you should make together. It is no guarantee that he will stay but the odds are better if you don't try to use pregnancy as trap to get your man.
Remember, I love you and there is nothing you can do it about it.
When I got pregnant with my son, I thought that my son's father would magically fall in love with me again. I thought our problems would go away. I thought that he would be this wonderful father and that he would love his son as much as I loved my son. Well, I got a rude awakening. My son's father abandoned me after he found out I was pregnant. I thought, "This can't happen to me." But guess what, it did. My pregnancy did not strengthen our relationship. Our problems remained and intensified. It even caused new problems. It did not make him love or like me anymore than he did. It did nothing but cause strife.
When all of this was happening, my head started spinning. My life was out of control and I needed to get it back. It took me a long time, before I could come to terms with what happened. It was not that I did not love my son because I do with all of my heart. I wanted my son and his father too. The fact that this man did not want me or my son at that time was unbearable. It was excruciating pain. However, it was until I had to come to terms with my truth that my healing started.
When I figured out that my son's father did not love me the way I deserved to be loved, I started to change the way I felt about myself. It took a lot of talking to my best friends, Connie and Monique. It took a lot of talking to my family. It took a lot of prayer. It took me to make my mind up that I needed to move on. I had to move on not just for me but for my son too. I had to be able put my life together so that I could show my son what happiness looked like.
Today, my son's father and I have a good relationship. We both understand that it is not about us or our feelings but about our children. What I wanted more than anything was for my son and his father to have a good relationship. I am happy to say my son and his father are building a good relationship.
Ladies, please don't try to trap your man by getting pregnant. All it will do is cause strife in your relationship. He could end up resenting you. You don't want that in your life. You want a man that loves you. You want to be able to agree and plan you children with your man. These are decisions that you should make together. It is no guarantee that he will stay but the odds are better if you don't try to use pregnancy as trap to get your man.
Remember, I love you and there is nothing you can do it about it.
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
BFT Discussion of the Day: Should you spank your kids?
I know we have discussed this topic before but because we have so many new family members, I would like to discuss this topic again. As a child, I grew up with both of my parents in the house. My mother was the disciplinarian and my father enforced what she said if we were out of control. Now my mother whooped or spanked us. She did not beat us but we did catch that belt when it was required such as if we got suspended from school, bad report cards, talking back especially to her, being disrespectful to adults, etc. With all of the discipline that I received because I was no angel, I turned out fine. I don't have any emotional issues that my mother did not love me. So the discussion of the day is should you (the parents) be able to discipline your children by spanking them? Should this be against the law? Where do you draw the line on what is spanking and beating your children? Do you think that if we did spank our children that they would turn out better individuals? BFT what do you think?
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