Hollywood Chicks

Posted by: Reagan Gomez http://globalgrind.com/content/848659/Hollywood-Chicks/
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Allow me to re-introduce myself. My name is...Reagan Gomez. I’m an actress, I’m a wife, and proud mother of a two-year old daughter. I’m living my life, and I’m blessed to still be working after all of these years. But a lot of girls from back in the day, aren’t around anymore.


Black Hollywood is a very small community. We all know each other. There’s a special place in my heart for women from the 90’s, like me, who are still around and in good health. This is not an easy business to grow up in, especially for a young black woman. It’s all too easy to get “Caught Up” in the life. You have men just waiting for you to turn 18, and some men don’t wait. Hip-Hop and Hollywood are one in the same, so it can be one big world of excess and false reality. Lots of “YES” people…and if you’re 15, 16, 17, making 400k a year, those “yes” people, may be your own parents. But, not all families are like this.



A majority of girls from back in the day, who are still around, have to give credit to their families. I know I do! They keep you sane, and keep you grounded, in a world that can literally make you LOSE YOUR MIND! From drugs, to men, to partying, to trying to maintain the “Hollywood” standard of beauty, aka, staying thin, (and there’s lots of drugs for that) it’s all one big house of broken mirrors.



Not to mention, the “ROLE” of the black actress has changed. In the 90’s, everyone was working. From Parent’hood, to Moesha, to Family Matters, and movies like, The Best Man, Love and Basketball, Soul Food, Love Jones, Set It Off, there was always WORK! It’s not the same. So many talented people are out of work. So when 1 or 2 roles do come around, 30 amazing actresses all go out for it. Only 1 can get it. So where does that leave everyone else? Why, you ask? Let me make this perfectly clear. HOLLYWOOD IS FOR EVERYONE! IF I WERE BEING THROWN OPPORTUNITIES, I WOULD ABSOLUTELY TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THEM TOO!


If Hollywood would rather hire, a MUSICIAN, because they know this person has a set fan base, as opposed to an ACTRESS, then, there goes the work for actress. Plus, Hollywood thinks, no one is interested in seeing new black, FEMALE faces on the big screen. But they’ll hire new white faces and new black males all the time. Double standard.... yes. Hollywood is for everyone. But there has to be balance, and black actresses are getting the short end of the stick. So what do you do? You live your life, hustle, keep studying your craft, and keep God first. The minute you let your “job” become your “life”, you’re done. When you see a black female face on the screen, it makes it easier for ALL of us. It’s still a battle. But we’re up for the challenge.



So to all of my fellow actresses, who are still around, and even those who have chosen to give the business up, and pursue other things, I respect you. I love you. We know, all too well, the good and evils of this business. But we’ve learned how to “Work” the business, and not let it, “Work” us:)


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Dating with Children

I am here sitting watching the "Wendy Williams Show". A young lady said that she is on a dating prowl. She wanted to know when to introduce her date (that she is serious about) to her child. So I will take the liberty to discuss this you.

As a single mother, I made a lot of mistakes when it came to dating and my children. Early on, I would let my dates meet my children. I did not think anything of it. I thought my children did not even care that I dated. At that time, my thought process was that children were seen and not heard.

Anyway, a good friend of mine pulled my coattail on this issue. She advised that my children had opinions on the men that I brought home. They liked some and some they could not stand. Let me be clear, I did not bring a lot of men home but I brought home my fair share.

So I got to thinking because my children's opinions meant a lot to me. My son did not say much. He pretty much liked everyone. If he did not like you, he did not like you. If he liked you, he loved you. My daughter on the other hand, I was a little more concerned with. I wanted to make sure that I brought the right type of man home. I wanted my daughter to understand the type of man to bring home and the type of man to leave in the streets. I also I did not want my children to think that I was fast or doing too much.

To answer the question, I would say don't rush in letting your date or special friend meet your children. Make sure you that if you are going to introduce your date or special friend to your children that you are both serious enough to be in a committed relationship. Make sure that you and your boo (special friend) are on the same page when it comes to the children (yours and his). Your children don't need to see men and women coming in and out of your house at all hours of the night. Remember, your children will mimick your behavior and what you are doing. If you are having one night stands or booty calls, then you may want to revisit your strategy because your children may grow to learn to do the same thing.

This is my food for thought. Let me know what you think!

Teaching your Children to Date

My topic today is very near and dear to my heart. I am a single mother of two wonderful children. My daughter graduated from Grambling State University this spring. My son is 14 years old and will be heading to his sophmore year in high school. So the focus of this discussion will not be on my daughter but my son.

My son has now discovered that he likes girls. He and his friends are very girl crazy right now. I hear them planning their little group outtings and such. Now... my son and I have had the talk about sex and so on. However, some of the little girls are so advanced, I am afraid that my son will get caught up in something that he does not understand or in something that he can not handle. So... I try to stay in his ear.

So this is where my delimma began. My son has been hinting that he wants to go out on a date or a group outting. I intially said "Hell to the NO!" but my sister put this in perspective for me. She recommended that I let him go. Now my sister lives in Atlanta and as we were talking on the phone, I looked at it like it was alien or something. Anyway, I proceeded to listen so that I can hear her logic. She recommended that I go on the date or outting too. To make this easier, I will list her logic in bullet points.

• She advised if let my son do this, I can keep an eye on him and the little girl.
• She also advised that if I am there, I will be able to teach my son and the young lady how date. I will be able to teach him how to open doors, pull out her chair, pay for the popcorn (0ut of his money, of course), etc.
• This will give me a chance to show them different things when going out on dates.

As my sister talked , she started to make sense to me. That is the reason why so many men and women don't know how to date. No one taught them how!

So... as I embark on this journey of teaching my son how to date and to respect the young women that he will be taking out, I thought I would share this with all of you. I hope you all take this advice as I am, and teach your children how to date. This will make for more respectful and mannerable teenagers who will turn into young adults who will someday get married. At least they would have some training of the do's and don'ts on creating relationships.

I would love to hear from you! Please let you me know what you think. Your comments, opinions and advise is welcomed!

Respecting the Black Community!

I just wanted to touch on the subject of respecting the black community. I am of the opinion that in order for us to rise a people, we need to start respecting one another. Women need to respect the men and the men need to respect the women. It is time for us to start taking responsibility in making the black community a strong and viable community. One way to do this is by respecting one another.

Men... I will start with you. It is time to stop calling black women...bitches and hoes. Even if they are acting like it. It is time to put you women especially black women back on the pedestal. Women respond and adapt to how you act. If you are respectful to them and you did not tolerate anything less, women (including black women) would adapt. It is as simple as that.

Women...it is your turn. If you want men to respect you, then please dress appropriately. You don't have to be half naked in order to get a man. Leave something to his imagination. Trust me...he will still be interested. But if you are dressed appropriately, he may be interested in getting to know you for what you got going on in your head and not just sex.

So if you want respect, it begins with you. It is how you respect yourself and others around you. Once you learn to respect, then please teach it to our children. This will be a great start and beginning to building up the black community.

Welcome to Black Folks Think!

Hey Family!

This is my first official blog and I so excited to share my thoughts and to hear yours. So what I will do is tell you a little about myself. My name is Nicole and I am a single mother who has started a forum called Black Folks Think! My mission is to get black folks educated, motivated, empowered and to have fun in the process. The reason why I started this forum was because I wanted to see if other black folks thought the way that I do. I wanted to see if I can lift the black community up and to rise as a people. There is so much disrespect among our community. It seems as though we have lowered our standards and forgotten what a wonderful people we are.

Well... here I am. I would like to make a difference in someone's life. I feel that if I can help one person and that person helps another person and that person helps another person, then we can make some strides. We could become great again. We could become a strong people here to help one another. I think that it is time for us a community and a people to reclaim our rightful positions. I believe that we are all kings and queens. If I could help someone reach their goal or help someone become a better mother or father or help someone to be more respectful or help someone to be more educated, then I will have done my job.

So this blog is intended to be source of motivation, education, and empowerment. I hope that people will be accepting of what I bring to the table. If I am wrong on something, then I expect folks will call me on it. If there are issues that need to be address, please address them. If there is something that is on your mind then let us know what is so that we can then figure out how to solve it.

What I would like to see, is black folks becoming a family again. I would like to see us being respectful. I would like to see us be prosperous. I would like to see all of us educated. I would like to see us be motivated. I would like to see us love one another. I would like to see us victorious. I don't think that is too much to ask. I think that if we put our minds to it, we can accomplish whatever we choose to do.

So the choice is yours. What do you want to do? Are you in this with me? Do you care about the fate of black folks and our community? Black Folks what do you think?